Where’s Kimberly? Why hasn’t she posted anything? Why no new pictures of Jacob? I know you’re asking all these questions and the answer is I’m in over my head, I’m too busy to post and the new pics of Jake eating, playing in the tub, and trying to stand are all still stuck inside the camera.

This blog will be undergoing some serious changes as soon as I’m caught up with my proofing, have the house on the market, and know whether or not we’ll be moving into a new house or an apartment. In the meantime if you find yourself wondering what Jake looks like…come on by I could always use a hand!

Jake’s Adoption is Finalized!

Jake’s adoption was finalized this morning. Of course he was in a great mood (he always is) and it was just us, the judge, our attorney, my parents and my 14 mo. niece. The whole finalization took 3 minutes…he said everything was well in order and we had to take an oath and then he signed the papers and off we went.

I don’t think the magnitude of the day caught up to me until we made it outside the courthouse. I looked over and caught tears in my mom’s eyes and and maybe some in Dads and I stopped, looked up and the blue sky and I said “I just have to say WOOOOOOHOOOOOO”. Of course bellowing out in front of the courthouse earned me some strange looks but I didn’t care because it was all I could do not to skip down the street kissing perfect strangers and screaming yipeee! By the time we made it to the restaurant for lunch I was calm but I’m saving some more woohoos for the giant party we’re having this weekend…a weenie roast of mass proportions, all decked out, tons of food and fun! I’ll be sure to post pictures later.

To all you first time waiting APs…this time last year I thought we’d never get a match…looking back today that wait, that anguish seems like nothing at all. Adoption is worth every ounce of effort and tears…keep your chins up and soon you’ll be screaming woohoo into the big blue sky!

A love like no other

I’ve been meaning to blog about this for awhile now. A couple of days ago I was grocery shopping and this woman walked by and stopped to admire Jake (my kid is seriously cute so this happens a lot). She asked me “does he get his blue eyes from your husband?”

***now i walk a line with telling people that jake is adopted, it’s his to tell so as he gets older I’ll say less, but i really don’t want him to think that there’s something wrong with not looking like me or my husband so sometimes i put on my adoption ambassador hat as i did this day***

I said “no actually he gets them from his birthparents.” The woman looked at me then said “can I ask you something?” which usually means someone is about to ask me a highly inappropriate question about my son or my fertility or something…okay let me have it lady…”so do you love him like–”

I didn’t even let her finish her sentance I blurted out “like I am his mother, I don’ know any other way to love him…he is my son and yes I love him just as much if not more than I would love a child that I gave birth to…”

The woman then burst into tears. Oh god what have I done? Here I am in Wal-Mart with a well dressed woman standing there with her hand on my sons head bawling her head off. She then tells me that two years ago she placed a baby boy in a closed adoption and she’s been worried ever since that his adoptive parents don’t love him like he is their own. I told her something she needed to hear. So then I started crying too gave this perfect stranger a hug and told her I don’t know an adoptive parent that wouldn’t give their life for their child from that first moment. How terrible to not know where your child is, if they’re loved, how do you even move on from that. Jake is loved, oh so loved.