I just got done reading an entire blog that I found on blogger. It was written by a very angry woman, who I am assuming gave up her child years ago or was herself adopted and not treated well by her parents. Either way she was angry, and it made me both angry and upset to hear myself termed an “infertile” and a “cold empty blank slate”. The assertion was made that my inability to concieve also makes me less fit than afore mentioned angry woman to be a mother.

She claimed that adoptive parents are conning innocent birthmoms out of their children. Personally I give our child’s future birthmom more credit than that. I know the woman who entrusts us with her child will be smart and self-aware enough to know that she is making the best decision for her and her child. If angry woman did not do this with her own pregnancy, or allowed herself to be swayed by others then she has only herself to blame. No woman likes to be categorized or insulted. I certainly am not empty, or blank, or less capble of being a good mother. I am full of life and creativity and love. My non functioning ovaries don’t make me less of a woman, they make me a stronger woman. That’s the example I want to set for my children.