Our second homestudy visit was a piece of cake. I’m feeling much more positive this week and ready for our home. We did seperate interviews and I realized that being introspective is very helpful during this process.

Last week we had dinner with Techie’s parents. We don’t see them often and they weren’t caught up on our adoption. Thor mentioned something about a transracial adoption (which we’re both totally open to and comfortable with) and his Dad flipped. He can’t believe we want a “black” baby.

His mom, a lawyer, lost it when we said that we were going to have an open adoption. She started ranting about Grandparents relinquishing they’re rights and our birthmom coming back to take the baby at anytime.

I LAUGHED outloud. His parents usually don’t care about anything we do and I’m totally suprised to see such strong feelings about this. I hope once his Dad holds his grandchild he’ll be fine (no matter the ethncity). He has no positive experiences with people outside his own race and all we can do is try to broaden his horizons. Once we eliminate the rampant adoption myths here they will hopefully calm down.

They have to make it hard on us don’t they?

Adoptive Families Magazine has a great page on Adoption Myths at: www.adoptivefamilies.com/articles.php?aid=577.